Marital Obligations

So I was talking to a pretty good friend of mine the other day, and she feels as though when she gets married she isn't obligated to do anything for her husband. She feels that if she feels like doing it, then she will, but she doesn't have to do anything. Of course, she is completely unsubmissive, and hey some guys like to wear the skirt in the relationship, but I prefer my pants!!! Thankfully, my girlfriend/future wife, as opinionated as she is, knows I wear the pants!!! I feel as though in a relationship both parties should do their best to make each other happy, and I feel that in a marriage, both parties have the obligation to do their best to make each other happy. This all spawned from a convo we were having about doing the dishes. I said that I don't plan on washing dishes, and that I don't plan on my wife taking out the trash. She completely disagrees with the notion that the man is the "head of household" and that both parties are completely equal. Now I know how my baby feels, shouts out to Raychelle, but I just think that this is an extremely interesting view of relationship roles. Let me know what you all think!!!

P.S. Babe...can you iron my pants for me? LOL j/k...I love u!!!

Perfection

Time and time again, everyone keeps telling me that no one is perfect! I get tired of hearing this. The bible clearly states that there have been perfect people...and yes..someone other than Jesus. Job for instance...plain as day states that he was perfect. Now I think perfection is easily obtained, but extremely difficult to maintain. We all agree that God is perfect. The fact that we are created in his image would consequently mean that in form, we are perfect. Correct? Let me know if you think I'm wrong...I love a good debate. Now that leaves us to sin. We are all born into a world of sin yes, but that does not make us evil. According to my beliefs, in the time period between when I have last sinned and repented, and when I sin again, I am indeed a perfect being? As well all know, after repentance, God Of course, I can't say definitely, and wouldn't stake my life on it, but I would think that God would view me as perfect in that span. So who would disagree?

Shyness

So, this topic spawned from my earlier note about swagger...we sat around and debated for a while about it the misuse and overuse of the word when we came across this discussion. Can someone be shy and have high self-esteem or high self-confidence? I don't think so, but to properly answer this question I think we need to consider a definition of shy. The dictionary defines it as everything from bashful and timid to reluctant and suspicious. Now for the purposes of this debate, I will toss out the existing definitions, because they don't necessarily define precisely enough to today's meaning of the word. My proposed definition is: an overwhelming feeling of unease or uncomfortableness that is sparked by a fear of perception, which results in being more reserved or less outspoken then one normally would. If you disagree, then please feel free to pose your own definition. Now according to my definition, I don't believe that someone could have high self confidence and then be overwhelmed with a fear of perception. I am not going to assume that there are an abundance of people out there like me, who simply have very, very, very little, if any concern for others' opinions. Most people care somewhat, but also if you have high self confidence then will you let other's perception cast doubt over your own perception? For example, I have no problem speaking in front of crowds of people. As we all know I have HIGH HIGH HIGH self esteem! My self perception is that I am a great orator, that I have a captivating charisma and personality, and that I have a presence and voice that while speaking will command attention. Now when I speak in front of others, how they will think about me is not even a thought, definitely not a concern! Now let me state, that being naturally reserved is not the same as being shy. But if you are outgoing then around a larger group of people you aren't yourself, then it isn't reserved it's shy. Saying that you are outgoing, but you are going to be reserved around people you don't know doesn't make sense. If you are only yourself around those you know, then that is more so being comfortable as opposed to being outgoing or outspoken. Who is shy around their own family? Think about it...let me know how you feel!