So I'm sitting around, and a cousin of mine decides to come to me for some advice. She has told a guy that she has been talking to for some time now, about 9 years, that she was pregnant. Now the guy, lives Memphis, TN and is unemployed and borderline homeless! Now, she should have come to me and asked my opinion before she even made the declaration. My girlfriend did the same thing last year and I could have told her how pissed it made me and to not try it...however, she doesn't use resources that are readily available to her....i.e. my supergenius! Anywho, the guy gets sad and depressed bc he can't afford and is in no position to take care of a child. He is, somehow, excited by the idea that my cousin, Trisha, who is his "best friend" who he "cant" be in a relationship with is carrying his child. Now, Trisha, comes to me and asks how she can get around her lie...of course, myself being an advocate of honesty, tell her that it was a stupid decision to joke around with in the first place and that she should tell him the truth. So after sending an April fool's txt, he gets pissed. She apologizes and expresses her sincere regret for using this scenario as a joke. However, he will not accept the apology....he remains bitter and suspends communications with Trisha. Now she is all distraught and continues pestering me about what she should say next. I let her know that it is a game of chess, and that she has been playing checkers. After some immediate coaching, she asks him if he is not talking to her and he says no...I told her to ask when he will want to talk to her again and he says that he will let her know! Now, at this point, she has already apologized and there is nothing else to do...personally I feel that she should tell him to man the hell up and stop acting like such a punk ass!!!! I mean the guy is damn near 35 and it was a joke. Of course, pregnancy shouldn't be joked about, but really...people are way too sensitive...get over yourself and let it go! I'm not a stickler for rules, but I do feel as though there is one critical rule to life....and that is: NO BITCHASSNESS!!! Let me know what you think, and what you think Trisha should do.
P.S. the people, relations, locations, ages, and time lengths have been fictionalized to protect the identity of those involved, but the situation is real!!!
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The ball is definately in dude's court! And they should use this opportunity as a learning experience. Its obvious that if you're sexually active that there's a chance to get pregnant. Im not saying he doesnt have the right to be mad but at the end of the day you're gonna forgive or not...what's the point of prolonging it unless his feelings are hurt? "Trisha" should tell him to holla at her when he's ready to talk...or gets over his bitchassness...whichever come first!
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